Episode 51: Working Through Your Grief with the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, Rebecca Soffer

May 22, 2022 | Podcast Episode

Powered by RedCircle

I’m joined by the Godmother of Grief, the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, writer, speaker, and big inspirer of SSFYL, Rebecca Soffer. When Rebecca was 30, her mother was killed in a car accident one hour after dropping Rebecca off from a family camping trip to the Adirondacks. Four years later, her father died of a heart attack while on vacation. So much loss at such a relatively young age.

She began to navigate life as a parentless only child and co-founded Modern Loss as a place to share the unspeakably taboo, unbelievably hilarious, and unexpectedly beautiful terrain of life after a death. With Modern Loss, Rebecca hopes to bring that refreshing openness to a broader audience, and community. Her wit can only be matched by her vibrance. She is a true leader in this space with the delicate way she can weave a jovial spirit into a scene of darkness.

Her two books:
Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience
Modern Loss: Candid Conversations about Grief

Episode Highlights:

  • Rebecca’s stories of loss
  • Traumatic sudden loss versus prolonged expected loss: how grief differs and brings different loads to carry
  • The loneliness of being an only child navigating loss
  • Psychotherapy, EMDR, talk therapy, medication and other means to support healing in grief and loss
  • What inspired her to write her books
  • Bracing yourself for “trigger days” or grief seasons
  • How she finds determination to find joyful moments and hope in everyday life



All The Skies

There’s no magic pill that can take away the pain of grief
But there are some pretty, little things that can help